Comments on: Riding at the Front of the Bus http://freerangelibrarian.com/2008/05/18/riding-at-the-front-of-the-bus/ K.G. Schneider's blog on librarianship, writing, and everything else Sun, 20 May 2012 03:37:16 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.1.1 By: KRin http://freerangelibrarian.com/2008/05/18/riding-at-the-front-of-the-bus/comment-page-1/#comment-253160 KRin Fri, 23 May 2008 01:08:46 +0000 http://freerangelibrarian.com/?p=1518#comment-253160 I just wanted to say I support same sex marriages even though I don't want to be in one! It's just as silly here in Australia. In some state it's recognised, while in others it's shuned. I do know there have been changes in the superannuation laws so your partner can now get your superannuation. Small steps towards the front of that bus. I just wanted to say I support same sex marriages even though I don’t want to be in one! It’s just as silly here in Australia. In some state it’s recognised, while in others it’s shuned. I do know there have been changes in the superannuation laws so your partner can now get your superannuation. Small steps towards the front of that bus.

]]> By: Anne http://freerangelibrarian.com/2008/05/18/riding-at-the-front-of-the-bus/comment-page-1/#comment-250411 Anne Tue, 20 May 2008 03:29:35 +0000 http://freerangelibrarian.com/?p=1518#comment-250411 Front of the Bus. I like that phrase very much. And I ditto the wanting to see the new photos. How many people get married to the same soul twice without having to go through a painful divorce inbetween? A blessing in two ways! Front of the Bus. I like that phrase very much. And I ditto the wanting to see the new photos. How many people get married to the same soul twice without having to go through a painful divorce inbetween?

A blessing in two ways!

]]> By: Dinah PHillips http://freerangelibrarian.com/2008/05/18/riding-at-the-front-of-the-bus/comment-page-1/#comment-250041 Dinah PHillips Mon, 19 May 2008 18:41:25 +0000 http://freerangelibrarian.com/?p=1518#comment-250041 You and Sandy have an open invitation to come get married in beautiful Santa Cruz. We have our guest room back, so ya'll come! You and Sandy have an open invitation to come get married in beautiful Santa Cruz. We have our guest room back, so ya’ll come!

]]> By: Nathan http://freerangelibrarian.com/2008/05/18/riding-at-the-front-of-the-bus/comment-page-1/#comment-249933 Nathan Mon, 19 May 2008 16:04:16 +0000 http://freerangelibrarian.com/?p=1518#comment-249933 Walt is addressing this issue to, and I've played the contrarian voice there: http://walt.lishost.org/2008/05/i-still-dont-understand/ Karen, thanks for posting so honestly about your experiences. As someone with a different perspective, I know I can't get in your skin, but every little bit of writing like this certainly helps. Thank you, Nathan Walt is addressing this issue to, and I’ve played the contrarian voice there:

http://walt.lishost.org/2008/05/i-still-dont-understand/

Karen, thanks for posting so honestly about your experiences. As someone with a different perspective, I know I can’t get in your skin, but every little bit of writing like this certainly helps.

Thank you,
Nathan

]]> By: K.G. Schneider http://freerangelibrarian.com/2008/05/18/riding-at-the-front-of-the-bus/comment-page-1/#comment-249247 K.G. Schneider Sun, 18 May 2008 22:09:28 +0000 http://freerangelibrarian.com/?p=1518#comment-249247 Jill, amen, you can SEE from the front of the bus, can't you--and it almost feels like you're driving! Tayari, this is terrible but I have had a bad case of "writer's superstition." Even with a signed contract from Ninth Letter, I was waiting for someone to tell me it was all a mistake! Robin, I really hope you get to read my essay. In the beginning I do my best to capture the feeling of that experience -- the people standing on line, the giddyness, the way City Hall felt. (Bravo Gavin, bravo sir.) Jill, amen, you can SEE from the front of the bus, can’t you–and it almost feels like you’re driving!

Tayari, this is terrible but I have had a bad case of “writer’s superstition.” Even with a signed contract from Ninth Letter, I was waiting for someone to tell me it was all a mistake!

Robin, I really hope you get to read my essay. In the beginning I do my best to capture the feeling of that experience — the people standing on line, the giddyness, the way City Hall felt. (Bravo Gavin, bravo sir.)

]]> By: Jill Hurst-Wahl http://freerangelibrarian.com/2008/05/18/riding-at-the-front-of-the-bus/comment-page-1/#comment-249157 Jill Hurst-Wahl Sun, 18 May 2008 19:26:45 +0000 http://freerangelibrarian.com/?p=1518#comment-249157 Karen, thanks for this post and for the pointer to your post on Mar. 6, 2004. I now know that we have two things in common -- our birth years and the year we both got married! I like your analogy of being at the front of the bus. That piece of paper changes how you see the road ahead. The ride is also different at the front of the bus. I look forward to photos from your next ceremony. Karen, thanks for this post and for the pointer to your post on Mar. 6, 2004. I now know that we have two things in common — our birth years and the year we both got married! I like your analogy of being at the front of the bus. That piece of paper changes how you see the road ahead. The ride is also different at the front of the bus.

I look forward to photos from your next ceremony.

]]> By: Robin http://freerangelibrarian.com/2008/05/18/riding-at-the-front-of-the-bus/comment-page-1/#comment-249143 Robin Sun, 18 May 2008 19:11:42 +0000 http://freerangelibrarian.com/?p=1518#comment-249143 Karen- Excellent post. As part of another duo that joined you & Sandy in the SF "mischief," I can also say it was a life-changing experience. My partner and I had been together for 12 years at the time and yet this added to our long-time joy. To receive the official state "annulment" later on impacted us in a way we couldn't imagine, even though we knew it would happen. We hadn't anticipated how much it would touch us. Now, like you, we wonder if we'll be married again - in less of a rush and with more than my wonderful brother-in-law around for the ceremony. At least this time, my brother-in-law won't have to stand and sleep in line through 12 hours of pouring rain so we could get our number and be married before the ceremonies were stopped. (It was his "wedding gift" to us so we could sleep at home and show up less drenched for our 5 minutes of glee.) You're so right - it *is* different at the front of the bus (or any other seat of our *choosing*). And while our families were a bit confused by our "statement" of four years ago, in the last few days each have called to ask when we're "really getting married." Even in accepting, loving extended families, the brief ceremony of 4 years ago had an impact. And they want us to have our place back at the front of the bus... Thanks for the eloquent reminder of why we participated in the mischief in 2004 and why even after 16 years together, we'll probably do it again. Robin Karen-
Excellent post. As part of another duo that joined you & Sandy in the SF “mischief,” I can also say it was a life-changing experience. My partner and I had been together for 12 years at the time and yet this added to our long-time joy. To receive the official state “annulment” later on impacted us in a way we couldn’t imagine, even though we knew it would happen. We hadn’t anticipated how much it would touch us.

Now, like you, we wonder if we’ll be married again – in less of a rush and with more than my wonderful brother-in-law around for the ceremony. At least this time, my brother-in-law won’t have to stand and sleep in line through 12 hours of pouring rain so we could get our number and be married before the ceremonies were stopped. (It was his “wedding gift” to us so we could sleep at home and show up less drenched for our 5 minutes of glee.)

You’re so right – it *is* different at the front of the bus (or any other seat of our *choosing*). And while our families were a bit confused by our “statement” of four years ago, in the last few days each have called to ask when we’re “really getting married.” Even in accepting, loving extended families, the brief ceremony of 4 years ago had an impact. And they want us to have our place back at the front of the bus…

Thanks for the eloquent reminder of why we participated in the mischief in 2004 and why even after 16 years together, we’ll probably do it again.

Robin

]]> By: tayari http://freerangelibrarian.com/2008/05/18/riding-at-the-front-of-the-bus/comment-page-1/#comment-249008 tayari Sun, 18 May 2008 16:06:42 +0000 http://freerangelibrarian.com/?p=1518#comment-249008 I didn't know you had an essay coming out in Ninth Letter! You should have told me so I can post it with the "good news" posts! I didn’t know you had an essay coming out in Ninth Letter! You should have told me so I can post it with the “good news” posts!

]]> By: Emily http://freerangelibrarian.com/2008/05/18/riding-at-the-front-of-the-bus/comment-page-1/#comment-248953 Emily Sun, 18 May 2008 15:00:05 +0000 http://freerangelibrarian.com/?p=1518#comment-248953 KGS - thank you for this post. I think it speaks to every person who holds dear the ideal of social justice. I never thought I would find a source of hope or bravery in the idea of mischief, but you've done it. KGS – thank you for this post. I think it speaks to every person who holds dear the ideal of social justice. I never thought I would find a source of hope or bravery in the idea of mischief, but you’ve done it.

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