From that title, you may be thinking I am writing about Bush commuting Scooter Libby’s sentence, but I’m not being coy: this is about the flag.
Over on Twitter, Blake commented, “62% of Americans said they flew the stars and stripes at home, office or car, sez poll by Pew Research Center for the People and the Press.”
I would bet 90 percent of the flag-flyers are flying the flag incorrectly. As a veteran, this bugs me no end.
It’s bad enough we send our working poor to fight our wars while we zoom around in our big-butt SUVs, complaining about the high price of gas. It’s bad enough that days go by when we forget we’re at war because geeze, the iPhone just came out or Britney’s out of jail, and if you can’t see a war and you don’t feel its sacrifice, well, it just slips.
We’re not over there humping our way through the 140-degree heat trying to secure a patch of dust and avoid getting our rumps blown sky-high. We’re here, driving to Wal-Mart to buy ourselves a little patriotism, looking for a good price on a flag sewn somewhere overseas, a flag we’ll hoist right before we make another run to Publix for more beer and burgers, because we wouldn’t want to not have our every whim met tomorrow, even if some troops fighting that unseen war are in such short supply their water is rationed.
We extend the same carelessness to flags, as well. Oh yeah, we’re patriotic, as long as that means hoisting a flag on a flagpole and then forgetting about it, letting it get faded and frizzled from sun, rain, and wind. Sure, we’re all about patriotism, as long as it’s a meaningless gesture with no pain or sacrifice on our behalf.
If you really want to fly a flag, do it right. Raise it quickly and lower it slowly. Unless you’re going to take it down every time it rains or snows, buy an all-weather flag. Unless you’re going to illuminate it 24 hours — and you might check with your neighbors on that — take it down at sunset every night, or fly it on special occasions. When you do take it down, don’t just wad it up and stick it in your front hall closet behind the umbrellas; fold it correctly. Keep your flag clean and mended, and when it has outlived its useful life, show some respect in how you retire it.
Some day, after you’ve raised the flag, stop and listen to what it tells you. You don’t have to stand retreat (though imagine a world where this was ordinary, respected practice, the way it is on military bases: what would that teach us about discipline, and attention, and a formal division between day and night?). Just stand near the flagpole and listen for the sound of the halyard slapping against the flagpole’s hoist, and for the crackle of the flag’s fly end snapping in the breeze.
Give it a full three minutes without checking your Blackberry or talking to anyone. Let your crowded mind empty, and focus on the flag. Then consider the people who in good faith are fighting our forgotten war, people who at some point in their military career were all taught how to tend a flag, who would never leave it alone in the dark, or allow it to get sodden from rain or frayed from disuse, or toss it like a popsicle stick when its fabric gave out. They aren’t dupes and stooges for serving our country; they made a deal and they’re sticking to it. They practice what they preach.
Can we?
Thank you for this post. It reminds me of my grandfather, a Marine veteran of the Korean War. He used to have flag pole in his front yard and if I was at their house when he came home from work, he would let me help him take down the flag. We lowered it slowly, without tangling the cords (hard for a kid) and then we would fold it. He is a wonderful man who has taught me a lot about what it means to serve. I am lucky to have him in my life.
The National Anthem still makes me tear up every time I stand for it.
This is why I don’t fly a flag. My family bought one once, and it came with a 14 page booklet with tiny type with a bunch of rules. I never could make heads or tails of the folding rules.
I guess you can tell there’s no veterans in my immediate family, huh?
Thanks so much for this, Karen.
Hey Jane/Michelle, I can see why you turned out so good. Mark, you’re welcome — I was hoping you’d see this. Karin, it’s interesting, and a little sad, that folding a flag isn’t common knowledge. Though not flying the flag was better than flying it incorrectly.
I learned to fold a flag properly from my mother and grandmother–and my grandfather was never in the military, and my father made it only part way through boot camp.
I don’t own a flag, but I’ve always agreed with my grandmother, who likes to note that burning a flag shows a lot more respect for it as a symbol than putting it on a paper napkin does. And in my anti-sweatshop days, I always wanted to do a “Who Made Your Flag?” campaign.
I was lucky enough to be in the fifth grade class in my elementary school which had, as its responsibility, the raising and lowering of the flag every day. Oddly, only one of the three fifth grade classes got to do this — perhaps because that teacher had some sort of personal investment in flag duties. In any case, that is the ONLY reason I know how to fold a flag (“triangle, fold, triangle, fold, step closer, triangle, fold…”). My brother, who went to the same elementary school but was not in that fifth grade classroom, does not know how to fold a flag.
I am less invested in the ritual practice of patriotism in this way, probably because I don’t have any military background or family in the military. I am, however, impressed daily by the blessing it is to live here. My personal patriotic ritual, as you can imagine, is musical. I don’t much care for the Star-Spangled Banner, but I sure do love “This Land Is Your Land.” Any time I have friends together to play tunes together, especially on the “picnic holidays” that tend to lose their meaning in bags of potato chips, I insist on the Guthrie tune. What a beautiful description of the landscape, the people, and what is truly lucky about living here. The flag is a beautiful symbol, and I would absolutely never allow it to be disrespected — but I think I need words and music, too.
Thank you 🙂
This is also a pet peeve of mine…hmmm maybe I should print this out and place it on my neighbor’s front door.
Years ago, when I was still married and my father-in-law was alive, some artist had done a flag installation that required walking on the flag to view it. There were the predictable newspaper reactions, and my FIL (a WWII vet) started holding forth. So I asked him which was more respectful, thinking about what you were doing as you stepped on a flag (and a work of art, at least in someone’s mind) or giving a kid one of those cheap little flags to wave at a parade, knowing the kid will drop it, leave it on the back seat of the car where it gets squished under the car seat and spilled on, etc.
I didn’t fully agree with the artist but could at least view the installation as a form of expression, but I’ve always been bothered by flags as cake decorations and trinkets for a few minutes use.
And I’ve held off acquiring a flag, even though I now have a fine front porch on which to display it, for many of the reasons you state … would I remember to bring it in at night? where would I keep it? etc.
Thank you – very nice post.
Very few things irritated me more after 9-11 than the people I would see driving around flying flags from their car windows that were tattered and frayed.
My neighbors across the street are the big patriotic types yet they leave their flag out in bad weather. Makes me crazy.
I have a 2 foot tall flag that I put in the corner bed by the sidewalk on holidays. That’s probably bad but it’s the only flag I’ve ever had and I bought it after Bush was elected the second time as a sort of odd protest.
Pam, I don’t think your usage is wrong; as long as you take it in before dark, that sounds fine.
Brava!
Also – one thing to add too (that I know you know obviously – but for anyone who is using this as a source of information) – its not that hard to remember the phrase “The flag’s own right” – when in doubt about an aspect of how the flag is to be desplayed this of course always comes up – whether hung horizontally or vertically the stars are always to be to “the flag’s own right” – in an auditorium or church the United States flag is again to be on “the flag’s own right” (or on the left of the stage as you’re looking at it from the audience…
I was shocked at how many incorrectly hung flags I saw on buildings and porches after 9/11 who had the stars on the flag’s left… i understood the confusion – after all if you take a flag hanging normally (horizontally) and turn it 90 degrees, thats what you get… but that doesn’t make it right…
(not to mention all these huge flags that could never be flown at half mast – though I am now guilty of this in a sense – the small flag pole (smallest you can buy) that my dad bought me unfortunately hooks the flag permanently to the top of the flag pole… therefore the next time the flag is supposed to be at half mast I am going to have to go out there and put up a poster that says “I’m not ignorant – my flag pole just doesn’t have a half mast setting”)
My flag has a light shining on it because there is no easy way to put it up or take it down every day – but if I knew there was going to be a really bad storm I would take it down… I just didn’t find out until after my dad (retired Air Force) had already installed my flag pole that it didn’t function like a “real” one…
Actually, having participated in retreat but having never officially been on a color guard of any kind, I didn’t know that! It wasn’t even covered in training (or at least, if it was I skipped that day and passed anyway :> ). Great information!
I have one of those small banner poles out front of the house, and due to all of the above issues I fly only meaningless garden flags… it doesn’t mean I’m not patriotic, it means, in fact, if I can’t do it correctly I won’t do it at all!
My dad served in Vietnam. We never flew a flag at our home, and I carry on the tradition. The reasons are too deep and many for a simple comment… however, thank you for a wonderful post that anyone who chooses to display the stars and stripes should read. Then again, I seem to remember a few of my dad’s old friends using flags as headbands back in the day. Trust me, they were patriots. Maybe not the way some folks would choose to define the word, but in my book… serving their country then coming home to what they did? Headband away!
But I should note I really enjoyed your very informative post. And with my dad dying and the VA being so good to him, well, things just hit extra hard. Happy 4th.
Karen, thank you for posting about the flag. I learned proper flag treatment at Girl Scout Camp, and it’s a wonderful memory for me. I was so proud when it was my turn to be on the color guard (part of the team that raises the flag at flag ceremony EVERY morning. Sigh, that was then). Improper flag treatment is one of those things that makes me nuts, too. There are so many faux-patriots who — just as you point out — drive a big ol’ hummer and leave their flags out in the rain. It’s just wrong.
I have always loved the flag and everything about it. I always hang a flag on “flag” holidays (and I know how to do it right, and it comes down before dark!). For me, it’s important to say “this flag represents me, too.” It’s not the exclusive property of a particular political view: it represents all of us.
So I’d get weird looks in my former very liberal suburban neighborhood. You could practically hear them thinking, “Well, she seems ok, but what’s up with the flag?” It made people with a particular political view uncomfortable. But that’s another story!
Thanks again, Karen.
Mary, that puts a nifty spin on “flying your freak flag” — to say that you would fly your flag ANYWAY. That’s great.
Jennimi, a dear friend was well-tended by the VA before his death a couple of years ago, and it’s good to hear that your dad got good treatment, too. The VA hospitals try… they do. I don’t have issues with genuine veterans wearing flag headbands (shirts, teeshirts, etc.) but I do with the oblivious privileged folk burning their way to the discount store to buy a flag they will then abuse.
In recent years in our country, teenagers and young men have started to wear the Australian flag as a cape, over a singlet on January 26 (Australia day). I have never been one for patriotism (until a few years ago it wasn’t part of our heritage) but I am so offended by this behaviour.
I learnt how to fly the flag when I was in the Girl Guides. We don’t have as many rules about folding etc though, the main rule is as always, to not let the flag touch the ground.
Very few people fly a flag at home here, and I’ve never owned one.
While it’s nice if folks fly and treat the US flag properly, isn’t it more significant that they chose to fly it even if it isn’t done just right? Can’t a tattered flag be a more patriotic expression than no flag?
I’m one of those folks who learned to fold a flag correctly (Girl Scouts again) and after 7 years of managing a library where we do fly the flag out front every open day, to take it down at night and in the rain. I was a stickler for proper half-staff etiquett, and for not letting it touch the ground and trained all the staff. As a result, people keep asking me flag questions and giving me worn out flags because they require proper disposal, and though everyone knows you don’t just put them in the trash, nobody knows what you do with them. In fact, neither do I. I think you do actually burn them properly. Karen, a little info on that please? Is there a common place I could take a few worn out flags given to me by well meaning people for proper disposal?
Steve, once you choose to fly a flag, you’re responsible for taking care of it. Flying a tattered flag sends the message that you’ll do the easy part — hoisting a flag — but you aren’t willing to do the long haul of tending it through its life cycle, protecting it from the elements, ensuring it is displayed according to longstanding customs.
Hillary, we have one reader of this blog familiar with Boy Scout protocols. If he’s reading this, can he respond? I thought I saw a web page with guidelines for burning flags for disposal. I wonder if a veterans’ organization would be of assistance here. I’ll ask!
not to disagree with anything you’ve said, but Howard Zinn had a nice piece on Alternet yesterday on the flag and nationalism http://www.alternet.org/story/55822/
See how perfect life is? I was just starting to feel very nostalgic about the Bay Area when this article reminded what it’s like to live in an ideological echo chamber with several hundred thousand Howard Zinns!
Nice post. I am one of those that flies a flag 24/7 except in extremely bad weather. I have it lighted on a 30 foot tall flag pole. The light comes on just before sunset and goes off just before sun rise most of the time. I am ashamed to admit that I have forgotten how to fold the flag. I learned in Boy Scouts and again when I was in the Navy. One of the major reasons I fly one is to show several of my really red neck brothers that a liberal left of center Democrat can also be a patriot.
Thanks to one and all for the comments. I live in a very “patriotic” area, and it bugs me no end to see all the faded, tattered flags left out around the clock and in all weathers, hoisted once long ago and long since forgotten. It would be a mercy to go around taking them all down and respectfully burning them. It does my heart good when, every now and then, I come across a flagpole empty in the rain or after dark, or a flag properly lit at night.
The flag is the one thing that symbolizes our nation, which is why I strongly feel that it is preferable to decline to fly the flag, if one cannot fly it properly, than to show disrespect by failing to take proper care of it.
As the U.S. Flag Code puts it, “The flag represents a living country and is itself considered a living thing.” Other nations have other flag customs, but the flag of the United States serves as the focal point of our national identity, much as the person of the sovereign does in a monarchy. This is probably the reason for the strong emotion we all feel when proper treatment of the flag is the topic of discussion.
In honor of Independence Day, I did some research on the U.S. Flag code, which can be found at http://www.usflag.org/uscode36.html or at http://www.law.cornell.edu/uscode/. Not only does it contain all the “rules & regulations,” it also sets out the basic principles of why and how to show respect for the flag.
Wow, You are entirely right. I am righting an article for my school paper on “American’s own Disrespect for their flag”. I stumbled across your blog and feel the same way, after all I have read because of my research, I believe our founders would be ashamed of the complete ignorance in patriotism nowadays.
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I am a veteran of the US Army, I served for 6 years in the ’90s and early ’00s, I served in the former Yugoslavia.
I went to an overnight summer camp from the time I was 6 until I’d turned 16, every morning we lined up on the hill around the flag pole, as the flag was zoomed to the top of the pole. Then, hands on hearts, we’d pledge allegiance. Every night, we lined back up on that hill and had a retreat ceremony… a few of us were chosen to bring the flag down, fold it, and present it to the man who ran the camp. This is where I learned to fold the flag. When I was 15 I was asked to help decommission the camp flag, it was a solemn honor.
Flying the flag is an act of patriotism, those who do not know the correct way, should be gently taught. Unlike this one idiot I came across who decided to fly his flag upside down… I knocked on his door, asked if he or someone in his house was in distress, as the only time the flag should EVER be flown upside down is as a distress signal, he gave me an attitude and asked me to leave his property with a few choice words. on my way out I cut the halyard and took his flag with me.
I told him if he wanted it back, he was welcome to come get it. The pole was bare for a while, eventually the halyard was replaced, every now and then I find myself near his neighborhood and haven’t seen him in distress since.
John, I love this story. Good for you to rescue Old Glory from such indignities. I’m still laughing at the picture of you absconding with the flag!
I think someone who casts an informed vote right after burning a flag is far more patriotic than someone who sews his own and spends election night watching reality tv. And to me, patriotism seems like an accepted way for those in power to get those who have none to act against their own best interests for the benefit of the former.
Rick, you’re describing jingoism, not patriotism.
Can anyone here tell me if it’s proper etiquette to fly the U.S. Flag at half mast because the head of a private organization (A business Headquarters) has passed away? I always thought the U.S. flag only flies at Half Mast for death of certain high level public officials, heads of state etc. Can a complaint be lodged if this is not appropriate? To who would I complain? thx N.H.
Nick, the answer is probably “no,” based on the information here: http://www.ushistory.org/betsy/flagetiq.html#q09 … Though I don’t know who you’d complain to, or whether it would be worth the fuss.